"Mourn not just for the loss of what was but also for what will never be." - Karen Katafiasz
How can anyone made such a irresponsible remark to a kid? How can an intellectual human being comment to a child that her mother has forgotten about her dad who has passed on years ago. To tell the child that her mother has forgotten about her dead husband as she is rebuilding her network of friends and getting her life back and leaving the child for a few hours in the care of the grandfather.
I want to tell the person who made this irresponsible remark that losing someone close especially through death is not a one-fell swoop blow. After the numbness wears off, after the shockwave of sadness knocks us to our knees, we come to another sobering realization. The hits just keep on coming- loss after loss after loss...
When someone close dies, it triggers a chain reaction. Not only is that person gone, but our shared dreams and goals are gone as well. The plans we had- never to happen. The hopes and possibilities gone. The future we envisioned- not to be.
