What Are Regrets?

The choices we make in life, as well as the missed opportunities, have a profound impact on our happines in the end. To start working toward the goal of a life with no regrets, we first have to understand what regrets are and why we have them in the first place.

What are regrets? Regrest are the things we do that we wish we had not done and the things we fail to do that we wish we had done, both of which result in unhappiness, disappointment , or remorse.

Now before I make a decision, I will ask myself first:

Will I have regrets if I do it? (or don't do it)?
Will I avoid having regrets if I do it ( or don't do it)?

You Are The Reason

This is for you, Big One. I miss you heaps. Please watch over our little princess and do visit me in my dreams when you can. I do need some encouragement from you that I am doing everything right and that you are proud of me, your little one. Miss you D... so much.... But please, don't worry about me. I will hang on till the day we meet again.

How can I forget
The longings of my heart
It's you I think of night and day

I know I couldn't touch you
I know I couldn't hold you
Though I wish I'm really close
To stare for you

Chorus: You are the reason
The seasons of my life
You're everything I wish and live for
Give me an answer
Show me the way
You're breaking me, leaving me in pain

You're the burning flame
In my heart and in my mind
In the silence of the night
I can hear you

My thoughts are all about you
Alive and true to me
But now I really have you
Only in my dreams

Loving you changes everything
It's giving me the strength
And it's all because of you...

You're the burning flame
In my heart and in my mind
In the silence of the night
I can hear you

I know I couldn't touch you
I know I couldn't hold you
Though I wish I'm really close
To stare for you

You're breaking me...
Leaving me in pain...

Honour The Memory

"You will not be cured, but one day- an idea that will horrify you now-this intolerable misfortune will become a blessed memory of a being who will never again leave you." - Marcel Proust

It is painful to remember the loss of our love, but the very thought of forgetting someone we loved so dearly is even more painful. That is why we choose to REMEMBER and to CHERISH the MEMORIES. I realised that the aim of my grief's work is not to erase memories, but to make the painful memories less controlling. At the same time, preserving the good memories is part of the sacred trust left to me. I commit to cherish the shared love with which I have been so blessed. I pray that I may come to discover that I don't necessarily have to see what I love in order to know it is safe in my heart.

My Biggest Regret

You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. (Mae West)

Nobody want to reflect back on their life with regrets or to be that person who look back on the past and says, " If only I have spent more quality time with the people I love most in my life...' " If only I would have gone with my gut feeling..." " If only I have told him how I feel..."


When my love of 8 years passed away - he was only a month away from his 34th birthday and left a lot of loving friends and family behind. My big darling had always lived life to the fullest and was a shining example of how to seize the day and live in the moment. He taught me to love life and to have fun and to be happy always. He taught me to be adventurous and to always challenge ourselves to be better. He always said that we have to age gracefully.  He had a true zest for life and loved to laugh. He was playful, funny, good looking, thoughtful, caring and kind. He was the undisputed life of any party.

A friend asked me shortly after my sudden loss a question that stayed stuck in my head for a long time. She asked " What is your biggest regret in life?" "My biggest regret?" I repeated. "Yes. If there was one thing in your life that you could go back and do differently, what would it be?" she clarified.


My biggest regret was to leave my husband in Hong Kong and to have our first born delivered in Singapore. If I had stayed, things may be different now for all of us. I can't help but wonder how my life would have been different with him in it, but now it's too late. I literally know what it meant when people say that life is short.


As a tribute or promise to my big darling, I promise him that I will always do my best to live my life without any more regrets. For that I will always thank him. I stayed strong to my promise to him and learn that :

There is no time like the present to start living life without any more regrets that we will bring to our grave.

This wake up call was my love's gift to me and one I will give to our only daughter.