You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough. (Mae West)
Nobody want to reflect back on their life with regrets or to be that person who look back on the past and says, " If only I have spent more quality time with the people I love most in my life...' " If only I would have gone with my gut feeling..." " If only I have told him how I feel..."
When my love of 8 years passed away - he was only a month away from his 34th birthday and left a lot of loving friends and family behind. My big darling had always lived life to the fullest and was a shining example of how to seize the day and live in the moment. He taught me to love life and to have fun and to be happy always. He taught me to be adventurous and to always challenge ourselves to be better. He always said that we have to age gracefully. He had a true zest for life and loved to laugh. He was playful, funny, good looking, thoughtful, caring and kind. He was the undisputed life of any party.
A friend asked me shortly after my sudden loss a question that stayed stuck in my head for a long time. She asked " What is your biggest regret in life?" "My biggest regret?" I repeated. "Yes. If there was one thing in your life that you could go back and do differently, what would it be?" she clarified.
My biggest regret was to leave my husband in Hong Kong and to have our first born delivered in Singapore. If I had stayed, things may be different now for all of us. I can't help but wonder how my life would have been different with him in it, but now it's too late. I literally know what it meant when people say that life is short.
As a tribute or promise to my big darling, I promise him that I will always do my best to live my life without any more regrets. For that I will always thank him. I stayed strong to my promise to him and learn that :
There is no time like the present to start living life without any more regrets that we will bring to our grave.
This wake up call was my love's gift to me and one I will give to our only daughter.
